What I want my daughter to believe about beauty

My daughter and I visited the makeup aisle at Target the other day. As you will see in this video on my Facebook page, makeup and hair just aren’t my thing.

My daughter, on the other hand? From a young age, she has been interested in makeup and nail polish. The brightly lit aisle is like a playground to her.

“Oooo, Mommy, look at this one!” She picked up a neon pink polish. And then a mascara in a shiny green case. And then a lipstick the color of a rose petal.

The colors were fresh, crisp, carrying a promise that life was better with these things.

She has not yet discovered the “beauty influencers” on YouTube and Instagram, but it is only a matter of time. Until then, her biggest exposure to the beauty world is the makeup aisle in Target, that white-lit beacon on the way to the shampoo and paper towels.

I know I have my prejudices, but I also have a Truth that makes me eager to teach her about real beauty.

If I could make her believe one thing about beauty, it would be not to listen to the world’s influences.

I would shield her mind from being ensnared by the lure of the perfect displays. I would ensure she believes there is so much they don’t tell her.

IMG_9470 (2)These little things we buy at the store are not the things that make us beautiful. They are not the things that define beautiful. They are just things, here today and gone tomorrow. They mold and break, leak and shatter.

We do not place our trust in such things.

Real beauty cannot be bought or sold. It does not fade.

“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” 1 Peter 3:3-4

If I could, I would etch this belief into her heart, chisel it in with such permanency that no lie could erase it.
IMG_9469 (2)All I can do, though, is model by example, guarding my own heart against such influences, not with prejudice but with proper perspective.

And I will. With all that I have, I will.

I want to be a real-beauty influencer.

I will teach her to adorn herself with Truth, Grace and Love. I will teach her to nurture a beauty no one can wash off. By this, she will have a beauty that attracts, inspires and LIVES.

This is what I want for her. This is what I want for all the daugthers and all the sisters.

Oh, that we would all believe it, and then TEACH IT to those who come after us.

“Behold, you are beautiful, my love, behold, you are beautiful!” Song of Solomon 4:1


In real beauty,



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5 thoughts on “What I want my daughter to believe about beauty

  1. Maybe she will become an aesthetician and bless some homeless women or single moms with makeovers. Have you discovered the Elf brand? She can experiment for fun with very few dollars.


  2. Love, love, love this. You and the hubs give your girls love and guidance daily. Just know they DO listen, may not seem like it. Grandpa Mette always said when your kids are good with others, you have done a good job as a parent. Love you, Mom

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  3. Loved this message, Sara,

    Maybe you could also introduce her to the world of art. Maybe God wired her to see beauty. Taking pictures of flowers and talking about His handiwork in nature would be an idea too. Paints, crayons, etc. And, you could incorporate how God sees us ~ on the inside ~ where real beauty is.

    Just a thought.

    Chickadee Words, LLC 5220 N Randolph Rd. Kansas City, MO 64119 816-807-7025 kathy@chickadeewords.com chickadeewords.com



    1. Good point. She very much does love art, of all forms: dance, photography, drawing, painting, etc. Loves to create new things and explore. She is a creative for sure and we try to encourage that as much as possible.


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