I had no idea what I was saying when I said, ‘I do’


To my godly husband:


I have to be honest…

All those years ago, I had no idea what I was saying when I said, “I do.”

I had no idea the enormous commitment contained in those two small words.

I had no concept of the depth enduring love requires, costs and compels.

As a young woman entering into married life, I could not have possibly understood the vast difference between bride and wife. One required only my “yes.” The other requires my entire self.

When I said, “I do,” at our wedding, I had no clue what it meant to truly live for and with another. I did not yet understand that I was promising to die to self a little more each day so that something greater could shine forth.

I had no inkling of the loss that was possible, or the indescribable gain. I had no concept of the sacrifice involved in marriage – or how joyful that sacrifice would ultimately be.

I had no idea the level of trust involved in “I do.”

I had no idea what married life would really be like.

I had no idea.

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Now I know.

Rather, I should say that I understand in increasing measure each new day I wake up with you.

Now I know you and I were never meant to complete each other in marriage but rather complement the work Jesus is doing in our hearts.

I know there are countless decisions that require two partnering minds instead of one self-focused heart.

I know the feelings can be raw and the tears hot, but these are often necessary for transformation to take place.

I know the joy in Christ we have grown up into together is worth more than rubies because it is the only thing that satisfies.

I know that “I do” is not a one-and-done declaration. It is an hourly affirmation to honor God by honoring you, my husband.

Now I know there is an art to tempering the mind and taming the tongue, and both are invaluable skills to obtain.

I understand the God-pleasing discipline of speaking well of you, thinking well of you, and teaching our children to do the same.

In that sunlit sanctuary, I did not comprehend what it meant to be led. Now I know that to follow you is to be cherished by the leader.

I had no idea when I said, “I do” that I would mature to want to serve you and follow you, because you are willing to lay down your life for me (Ephesians 5:25). Without hesitation. Like Jesus did. And that is love (John 15:13).

We have found it together.

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For our yesterday, I am grateful.

For our today, I rejoice.

For our tomorrow, I long.

I love you more than I ever imagined I would when I said “I do.”



With my everything,



For my husband, Robert, in honor of our wedding anniversary.


4 thoughts on “I had no idea what I was saying when I said, ‘I do’

  1. Very well said. I am so happy you two met, married, and have two awesome young ladies you are raising together
    GOD is in charge of your lives and it shows. Happy anniversary to you both. Wonderful post.

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