To my godly husband:
I have to be honest…
All those years ago, I had no idea what I was saying when I said, “I do.”
I had no idea the enormous commitment contained in those two small words.
I had no concept of the depth enduring love requires, costs and compels.
As a young woman entering into married life, I could not have possibly understood the vast difference between bride and wife. One required only my “yes.” The other requires my entire self.
When I said, “I do,” at our wedding, I had no clue what it meant to truly live for and with another. I did not yet understand that I was promising to die to self a little more each day so that something greater could shine forth.
I had no inkling of the loss that was possible, or the indescribable gain. I had no concept of the sacrifice involved in marriage – or how joyful that sacrifice would ultimately be.
I had no idea the level of trust involved in “I do.”
I had no idea what married life would really be like.
I had no idea.
Now I know.
Rather, I should say that I understand in increasing measure each new day I wake up with you.
Now I know you and I were never meant to complete each other in marriage but rather complement the work Jesus is doing in our hearts.
I know there are countless decisions that require two partnering minds instead of one self-focused heart.
I know the feelings can be raw and the tears hot, but these are often necessary for transformation to take place.
I know the joy in Christ we have grown up into together is worth more than rubies because it is the only thing that satisfies.
I know that “I do” is not a one-and-done declaration. It is an hourly affirmation to honor God by honoring you, my husband.
Now I know there is an art to tempering the mind and taming the tongue, and both are invaluable skills to obtain.
I understand the God-pleasing discipline of speaking well of you, thinking well of you, and teaching our children to do the same.
In that sunlit sanctuary, I did not comprehend what it meant to be led. Now I know that to follow you is to be cherished by the leader.
I had no idea when I said, “I do” that I would mature to want to serve you and follow you, because you are willing to lay down your life for me (Ephesians 5:25). Without hesitation. Like Jesus did. And that is love (John 15:13).
We have found it together.
For our yesterday, I am grateful.
For our today, I rejoice.
For our tomorrow, I long.
I love you more than I ever imagined I would when I said “I do.”
With my everything,
For my husband, Robert, in honor of our wedding anniversary.