A friend broke the news to me the other day. A group of women I care about who lead a ministry I care about have become divided. The group has split, resentfully. So many women find themselves caught between the two sides.
Those were hard words to hear. Heartbreaking.
I don’t want to see the good work God is doing be maligned by what amounts to personality conflicts and differences of opinion.
I wish I could say I have heard such a story only once in recent months. Sadly, I’ve heard it multiple times. Different groups, same story. The broken unity among Christian women seems to be everywhere.
The devil is at work, sisters. He has prowled, and he has devoured. The carnage lays beneath his dancing feet. Continue reading “We Have Forgotten We Are Sisters: Broken unity among believers”
Only in the last couple of years have I started to take seriously the instructions found in Titus 2:3-4:
Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children
I never saw myself as “older.” I mean, I certainly don’t FEEL old. Most days, anyway.
Then I started to notice just how young those college girls look, and how so very, very “momish” the entirety of my wardrobe is.
I also started noticing, quite by accident, that I had life experience younger women craved to hear, much to my surprise.
So I took a step of faith.
And it didn’t take long for me to understand certain truths that so many older women have learned before me when they became mentors: Continue reading “Before you say no to becoming a mentor, know this”
A young woman approached an older woman whom she respected and saw living a godly life.
“Would you mentor me?” she asked the older woman.
The older woman replied sheepishly, “I’m honored, but I don’t feel qualified to mentor.”
The response shocked the younger woman. Not because she was turned down but because she couldn’t believe the older woman would view herself like that.
“You have SO MUCH life experience I could draw from!” she wanted to tell her. Respectful of the older woman’s wishes, however, the young woman said her thanks and left it at that.
This scenario plays out countless times in churches. When I ask women why they shy away from becoming a mentor to someone younger, almost always I hear some variation of “I’m not qualified.”
Meanwhile, countless young woman wish for someone older to help guide them. Continue reading “The big lie women believe about becoming a mentor”
Recently I polled my Facebook page followers to see how many believed they would make a good mentor. The majority said no. I wasn’t surprised by this. Not all that long ago, I too felt unqualified to offer much of anything to anyone.
Then I realized what a gigantic lie that is.
I pushed past the negative self-assessment and invited a young woman about 15 years my junior out for coffee. The ministry that has unfolded since has completely changed my perspective.
Fellow “big sisters,” it’s time we realize how HUNGRY young women are for meaningful relationship with us.
Please take careful note of this: Continue reading “What younger women wish older women believed”
Maybe you’ve seen the blog post in your newsfeed by now. A fellow Christian woman by the name of Lori Alexander wrote a piece on her blog titled “Men Prefer Debt-Free Virgins Without Tattoos.” (Oh boy.)
As you can imagine, the post caused a bit of a stir among us church folk and garnered more than a few impassioned comments from others.
The article caught my attention because Mrs. Alexander is writing about young single Christian women. This is the life stage to which my heart tilts fully.
I lead an interchurch Bible study group for young single women called Two Doors Down. I walk with these lovely young women through the first years of adulthood and help them grow in their faith and life skills. I answer many a question about sex, marriage, motherhood, career, submission and more. It is a joy to serve the young women in 2DD (that’s the text-message version for those keeping score). Continue reading “Young women: Don’t worry about what men prefer; worry about what GOD prefers”