The big lie women believe about mentoring

True story:

A young woman approached an older woman whom she respected and saw living a godly life.

“Would you mentor me?” she asked the older woman. 

The older woman replied sheepishly, “I’m honored, but I don’t feel qualified to mentor.”

The response shocked the younger woman. Not because she was turned down but because she couldn’t believe the older woman would view herself like that.

“You have SO MUCH life experience I could draw from!” she wanted to tell her. Respectful of the older woman’s wishes, however, the young woman said her thanks and left it at that. 

This scenario plays out countless times in churches. When I ask women why they shy away from mentoring someone younger, almost always I hear some variation of “I’m not qualified.”

Meanwhile, countless young woman wish for someone older to help guide them. Continue reading “The big lie women believe about mentoring”

What younger women wish older women believed

Recently I polled my Facebook page followers to see how many believed they would make a good mentor. The majority said no. I wasn’t surprised by this. Not all that long ago, I too felt unqualified to offer much of anything to anyone.

Then I realized what a gigantic lie that is.

I pushed past the negative self-assessment and invited a young woman about 15 years my junior out for coffee. The ministry that has unfolded since has completely changed my perspective.

Fellow “big sisters,” it’s time we realize how HUNGRY young women are for meaningful relationship with us.

Please take careful note of this: Continue reading “What younger women wish older women believed”

Young women: Don’t worry about what men prefer; worry about what GOD prefers

Maybe you’ve seen the blog post in your newsfeed by now. A fellow Christian woman by the name of Lori Alexander wrote a piece on her blog titled “Men Prefer Debt-Free Virgins Without Tattoos.” (Oh boy.)

As you can imagine, the post caused a bit of a stir among us church folk and garnered more than a few impassioned comments from others.

The article caught my attention because Mrs. Alexander is writing about young single Christian women. This is the life stage to which my heart tilts fully.

I lead an interchurch Bible study group for young single women called Two Doors Down. I walk with these lovely young women through the first years of adulthood and help them grow in their faith and life skills. I answer many a question about sex, marriage, motherhood, career, submission and more. It is a joy to serve the young women in 2DD (that’s the text-message version for those keeping score). Continue reading “Young women: Don’t worry about what men prefer; worry about what GOD prefers”

15 powerful Bible verses to fight fear and be brave

We all need an infusion of courage from time to time. Or, in my case, basically on a daily basis. Fortunately for those who earnestly seek to know God and live a life worthy of his call, we have a wonderful Book full of reasons why we should not fear.

The Bible contains about 365 verses that tell us not to be afraid. Usually when God repeats Himself, it means we need to pay attention. He doesn’t speak these words for His own encouragement, but for ours.

God wants us to know how courageous we can be through Him, if we just believe.

Here are 15 powerful Bible verses to build your courage when fear presses in on you. Continue reading “15 powerful Bible verses to fight fear and be brave”

The courage to be still

Every so often I feel the way I feel today: wanting to get beyond where I am now — believing I can — yet here I remain. Not. Getting. Anywhere.

I strain against these chains I didn’t ask for. I wear myself out in the fight.

All the time, God is trying to whisper into my plagued heart: Be still, child, and know that I am God — the same who has held the earth in My hand since the beginning (Psalm 46:10, with embellishment).

Several years ago I wrote the prayer below, and I included it in my minibook Uncage My Brave: Pray Brave, Fly Free. Routinely, I fall back on this prayer, the title of it if nothing else, and I remember the way God showed up in that original situation.

I remember why I hold onto the hope He will move again. Because He always does. Because He is God, just as He says He is. Continue reading “The courage to be still”