To the older women who helped shape me

My life is an accumulation. A fruitful gleaning of wisdom from all of you who have gone before.

You are the older women who helped shape me.

You noticed a young, fumbling woman and said, “Walk with me.”

You may not have used actual words, but your actions said exactly that: “Walk with me.”

Patiently you taught me to work, to “adult,” to worship, to persevere, to learn, to believe. To forgive. To let go. To hold my head high in the confidence of my true identity.

You helped shape the woman I am today, and you laid the groundwork for the woman I’ll be tomorrow. Continue reading “To the older women who helped shape me”

10 ways to bridge the generation gap with another woman

The benefits of intergenerational relationships are many and great. Among the greatest of the great are a broader perspective, greater compassion, higher sensitivity to others’ needs as well as genuine f.u.n.

But a common question I hear from women who seek to form cross-generational bonds is HOW?

How do I connect with a woman of a different generation? Continue reading “10 ways to bridge the generation gap with another woman”

The big lie women believe about becoming a mentor

True story:

A young woman approached an older woman whom she respected and saw living a godly life.

“Would you mentor me?” she asked the older woman. 

The older woman replied sheepishly, “I’m honored, but I don’t feel qualified to mentor.”

The response shocked the younger woman. Not because she was turned down but because she couldn’t believe the older woman would view herself like that.

“You have SO MUCH life experience I could draw from!” she wanted to tell her. Respectful of the older woman’s wishes, however, the young woman said her thanks and left it at that. 

This scenario plays out countless times in churches. When I ask women why they shy away from becoming a mentor to someone younger, almost always I hear some variation of “I’m not qualified.”

Meanwhile, countless young woman wish for someone older to help guide them. Continue reading “The big lie women believe about becoming a mentor”

What younger women wish older women believed

Recently I polled my Facebook page followers to see how many believed they would make a good mentor. The majority said no. I wasn’t surprised by this. Not all that long ago, I too felt unqualified to offer much of anything to anyone.

Then I realized what a gigantic lie that is.

I pushed past the negative self-assessment and invited a young woman about 15 years my junior out for coffee. The ministry that has unfolded since has completely changed my perspective.

Fellow “big sisters,” it’s time we realize how HUNGRY young women are for meaningful relationship with us.

Please take careful note of this: Continue reading “What younger women wish older women believed”