I had no idea what I was saying when I said, ‘I do’


To my godly husband:


I have to be honest…

All those years ago, I had no idea what I was saying when I said, “I do.”

I had no idea the enormous commitment contained in those two small words.

I had no concept of the depth enduring love requires, costs and compels.

As a young woman entering into married life, I could not have possibly understood the vast difference between bride and wife. One required only my “yes.” The other requires my entire self.

When I said, “I do,” at our wedding, I had no clue what it meant to truly live for and with another. I did not yet understand that I was promising to die to self a little more each day so that something greater could shine forth.

I had no inkling of the loss that was possible, or the indescribable gain. I had no concept of the sacrifice involved in marriage – or how joyful that sacrifice would ultimately be.

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Marry the man strong enough to lead your family

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To all my young Christian sisters with an eye toward marriage:

You get a lot of advice about how to decide whom to marry. I won’t pretend to have any expertise in marital counseling, but in my nearly 13 years as a wife, I have learned a valuable lesson I want to share with you.

Oddly enough, this lesson was recently voiced by, of all people, Justin Bieber.

His engagement is inescapable news these days. Without trying to, I found myself reading a recap of his gushing Instagram post to his future bride. One sentence in particular stood out to me:

“I promise to lead our family with honor and integrity letting Jesus through his Holy Spirit guide us in everything we do and every decision we make.”

Ladies, think what you will about the Biebs, but he captures the key thing I would implore all of you to look for in a future husband.

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