My life is an accumulation. A fruitful gleaning of wisdom from all of you who have gone before.
You are the older women who helped shape me.
You noticed a young, fumbling woman and said, “Walk with me.”
You may not have used actual words, but your actions said exactly that: “Walk with me.”
Patiently you taught me to work, to “adult,” to worship, to persevere, to learn, to believe. To forgive. To let go. To hold my head high in the confidence of my true identity.
You helped shape the woman I am today, and you laid the groundwork for the woman I’ll be tomorrow. Continue reading “To the older women who helped shape me”
There are times when the Lord truly knocks your socks off by bringing just the right person into your path at just the right time. A couple of months ago, He did just that by introducing me to Annie McGuire. She too has a heart for Titus 2 mentoring and has actively invested into the next generation for years. In fact, she wrote a Bible study titled “Invest,” which she previews on her blog, His Daily Disciple.
This week, I had the privilege of guest posting on His Daily Disciple about the barriers and blessings younger women encounter with spiritual mentorship. Continue reading “What younger women view as the barriers and blessings of biblical mentorship”
Only in the last couple of years have I started to take seriously the instructions found in Titus 2:3-4:
Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children
I never saw myself as “older.” I mean, I certainly don’t FEEL old. Most days, anyway.
Then I started to notice just how young those college girls look, and how so very, very “momish” the entirety of my wardrobe is.
I also started noticing, quite by accident, that I had life experience younger women craved to hear, much to my surprise.
So I took a step of faith.
And it didn’t take long for me to understand certain truths that so many older women have learned before me when they became mentors: Continue reading “Before you say no to becoming a mentor, know this”
A young woman approached an older woman whom she respected and saw living a godly life.
“Would you mentor me?” she asked the older woman.
The older woman replied sheepishly, “I’m honored, but I don’t feel qualified to mentor.”
The response shocked the younger woman. Not because she was turned down but because she couldn’t believe the older woman would view herself like that.
“You have SO MUCH life experience I could draw from!” she wanted to tell her. Respectful of the older woman’s wishes, however, the young woman said her thanks and left it at that.
This scenario plays out countless times in churches. When I ask women why they shy away from becoming a mentor to someone younger, almost always I hear some variation of “I’m not qualified.”
Meanwhile, countless young woman wish for someone older to help guide them. Continue reading “The big lie women believe about becoming a mentor”