Before you say no to becoming a mentor, know this

Only in the last couple of years have I started to take seriously the instructions found in Titus 2:3-4:

Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children

I never saw myself as “older.” I mean, I certainly don’t FEEL old. Most days, anyway.

Then I started to notice just how young those college girls look, and how so very, very “momish” the entirety of my wardrobe is.

I also started noticing, quite by accident, that I had life experience younger women craved to hear, much to my surprise.

So I took a step of faith.

And it didn’t take long for me to understand certain truths that so many older women have learned before me when they became mentors: Continue reading “Before you say no to becoming a mentor, know this”

The big lie women believe about becoming a mentor

True story:

A young woman approached an older woman whom she respected and saw living a godly life.

“Would you mentor me?” she asked the older woman. 

The older woman replied sheepishly, “I’m honored, but I don’t feel qualified to mentor.”

The response shocked the younger woman. Not because she was turned down but because she couldn’t believe the older woman would view herself like that.

“You have SO MUCH life experience I could draw from!” she wanted to tell her. Respectful of the older woman’s wishes, however, the young woman said her thanks and left it at that. 

This scenario plays out countless times in churches. When I ask women why they shy away from becoming a mentor to someone younger, almost always I hear some variation of “I’m not qualified.”

Meanwhile, countless young woman wish for someone older to help guide them. Continue reading “The big lie women believe about becoming a mentor”